With his friend, I have taken time to sit down and talk with both boys about what his school means. Preschool isn’t about learning adding and subtracting so much as its is about getting your child used to a structured system where mom and dad aren’t around. For instance, our school is 4 hours long, it starts with breakfast, group time, open room which is play time, music or outdoors play time, story time, group time/clean up lunch. then going home. As i explained to the 4 year olds, its a lot of play time with other children.
“Whenever possible, let her make constructive choices about her life. Knowing what she cares about most will come from trying some things and finding she doesn’t like them, as well as from finding things she loves to do,” recommends Jane Katch, Ed.D., author of They don’t Like Me.
The health of your handovers is like a barometer of your co-parenting team. It will give you an indication of where the tricky stuff still lurks and it’s worth getting these healthy.
You should be able to find a class that deals with your particular problem simply by asking around. There are classes on almost every topic imaginable. If you have a problem, it is likely someone else has gone through the same thing.
47.Divorce in itself will not destroy your children. It is your reaction to the divorce that has the power to destroy their coping mechanisms. On-going conflict and emotionally unavailable parents who have regressed into boy/girl crazy adolescents are the real culprits.
The key is do you care what this person thinks, that is, do you value their opinion? Or do you know your children well enough to recognize that they don’t act like this all the time? Therefore can accept the person’s criticism (because that’s usually what it is) with a smile. This would be a good time to practice our patience and to set a good example to our kids on how to handle this situation with grace and style.
All of that freedom we had as kids to play out in the neighborhood without worrying about kidnappers did more than offer fun. The chores assigned to us before parents were made aware of what “might” happen if they insist their 9-year-old mows the lawn did more than earn us a few dollars a week. Those things taught us how to fend for ourselves and how to be responsible for a job. We were given a lot more ownership, I think, than today’s kids who live in a world that just isn’t safe anymore.
We watch this scene unfold everywhere. Preschool. Camp. Ballet recitals. T-ball games. Birthday parties. Your child has to participate in something, because he/she committed to doing it or he has to do it. But, then, he changes his mind. He digs in his heels. You feel powerless and angry and frustrated that he just doesn’t get it and he won’t obey.