“Although there is nothing wrong with a young person’s natural sexual awakening, it is wrong to allow a young person’s sexuality to be hijacked by corporations who want them as customers.” say Levin and Kilbourne, authors of Sexy So Soon: The New Sexualized Childhood and What Parents Can do to Protect Their Kids.
Try and stay away from insulting words whenever you are disciplining your child. If you put your child down, it might have a negative effect on his behavior. Use words that will direct him towards different, more adaptive behavior instead.
A couple of other arguments stem from this point as well. Firstly, what is okay? Could it be that if we weren’t smacked we might have more deeper and meaningful friendships? Better relationships? Lasting marriages? Feel less depressed? Perform better at work? Have a better outlook and attitude towards life?
Hand gestures can aid in disciplining your child when all other methods are failing. This is a non-verbal way of warning your child when he is behaving inappropriately, and it will give him a chance to change his behavior before you carry out a discipline.
What if you and your spouses parenting styles were part of your marital conflict and you’re ready to adopt a new style? When change is inevitable, be as clear and firm as possible regarding the new rules while the children are with you. Make it clear that what is ok with the other parent is not OK with you. Remember; also be fair, understanding, patient and gentle. It may take awhile for your kids to accept your new style of parenting. Being firm is different than being overbearing. It is possible to let them know what is expected without being mean or scary. Kids seek acceptance through their behavior. It’s your job to bring out the best in your kids by showing them the love and respect they too deserve.
Once we become adults, sometimes we forget what it was like to be a teen. The teenage years are years when major changes take place. Your teen is not a child, but your teen is also not yet an adult. Teenagers want to join the adult world, yet at other times they’d rather never grow up. They want the freedom to go out, have fun, and be a kid, and at the same time, they want to be taken seriously. They worry about what they wear and how they look. They start to worry about their future; if there will be money for college or where they will get a job.
“When we talk to girls, they often experience it as us talking at them, and they not only stop listening, they stop thinking and reflecting. We need to keep an open dialogue — we can’t dismiss their chatter about ups and downs of friendship as trivial, and then expect them to talk to us about the important stuff,” says Lawrence Cohen, Ph.D., co-author of Mom, They’re Teasing Me.
Secondly, it was researched and found that children who were hit by misguided but well-intentioned parents are later able to reach a well adjusted adulthood because of the love, nurturance and appropriate limit-setting they also received from their parents, not because of the physical violence they received.