Then, the lesson: “Sometimes it’s hard to do things when we’re scared or we don’t want to do them. But i know you can do it. I believe in you, and I’ll be waiting right here when it’s over. And you’ll feel so proud of yourself.” You’re offering support and encouragement; not insults or anger.
There is a common parenting joke abut how the first child is always the ‘test child’, meaning that parents try out everything they know about parenting and learn what works and what does not work. This is probably very true. Most of parenting is all abut learning as you go.
Going from one activity to another can be difficult for very small children. Abruptly switching between tasks can cause stress to toddlers and result in them experiencing a melt down.
Hand gestures can aid in disciplining your child when all other methods are failing. This is a non-verbal way of warning your child when he is behaving inappropriately, and it will give him a chance to change his behavior before you carry out a discipline.
“We have to acknowledge the pain our daughters are experiencing, but we also need to put it into perspective, to stay calm and listen to what they are experiencing without projecting our own experiences onto theirs.” says Cohen.
You are stuck with each other forever. One day, you will be Grandma and Grandpa to the same babies. And when these babies are grown they will repeat the stories that they heard about Grandma and Grandpa. This will be your legacy. How do you want to be depicted?
20.Expect that your children may feel confused, guilty, sad and/or abandoned in response to the divorce. Acknowledge their feelings as normal and remind them that even though the family is undergoing a major change, you and their Dad/Mom will always be their parents.
“By creating consistent, predictable times when she knows that you are receptive and available to listen. Let her use you as a sounding board to sort out what she is going through, without solving problems for her.” says White.