This means that if your ex is running late, you’ll pick up the slack. Now argument would say that regardless where it is, you’d be doing that, but this is not the case.
Another option for handovers is to meet at a neutral place. Something convenient like McDonalds where there is a playground, coffee, and food. Sure, I can hear the health arguments now but I can tell you that the lack of stress will make up for the bad food. Both aren’t great for the body, but one is poor for the children’s relationship with their parents – and it’s not the Big Mac.
The so called “rebellious stage” is a new product that becomes apparent in the last one or two decades. It is not found anywhere in our human history.
If you decide on a neutral place this can also save on travelling time for you both as you can meet half way. It shows reasonable co-operation, good fun stop for the kids in between, and a public safe place if tantrums, poor behaviour or abusive language is normal.
47.Divorce in itself will not destroy your children. It is your reaction to the divorce that has the power to destroy their coping mechanisms. On-going conflict and emotionally unavailable parents who have regressed into boy/girl crazy adolescents are the real culprits.
Whether you’re the custodial parent left holding the responsibility bag for all of those everyday parenting tasks and duties, or the off-site parent who is left feeling guilty and alone, knowing what their kids need, but unable to give it to them, your job as a parent will seem much harder after a separation or divorce – at least in the beginning. Your life just changed and so will the way you parent.
25.Don’t overindulge your children out of guilt or in an attempt to “buy” them. Children want to stay up late but they need rest. Children want candy but they need vegetables. Children express financial wants but they have emotional needs. Give your children a small amount of what they want and a lot of what they need.
Take the initiative and do the exercises that you know you do not like doing. Most likely, it is an issue of you believing you cannot accomplish the exercise which causes you to dislike them. You may actually prefer them if you were to give them a chance. You will eventually enjoy them if you keep working at them and realize that you can succeed. Try not to immediately give up on an exercise, even if you think you don’t like it. Like anything in life, you just need a little practice. Give these activities a try regularly for at least a month. You just might find that you enjoy them after all.