Once we become adults, sometimes we forget what it was like to be a teen. The teenage years are years when major changes take place. Your teen is not a child, but your teen is also not yet an adult. Teenagers want to join the adult world, yet at other times they’d rather never grow up. They want the freedom to go out, have fun, and be a kid, and at the same time, they want to be taken seriously. They worry about what they wear and how they look. They start to worry about their future; if there will be money for college or where they will get a job.
It seems to be a misconception that parents who choose not to use corporal punishment as a form of discipline are often perceived to be lax parents who let their children run wild. It is assumed that a refusal to hit a child in the name of discipline equates to a refusal to discipline a child. That is an extremely narrow view of discipline, for the root of the word discipline means “to teach”.
Your mood, your age, the age of your children, the weather (maybe it’s raining), have you eaten lately or are you starving and cranky, are you Passing, are you having a bad hair day. I could go on and on, but you get my point.
Children need much input along the way to becoming adults, and it needs to come along ahead of time. The input comes from being alone, in crowds, and nearly any other point between them. It’s what they will eventually be making their own life decisions from. Extreme socializing or isolation can be negative in your child(ren)’s development; especially if it’s all in fantastic settings. It’s good to make sure to strike a balance of everything life has to offer.
No, no and no. You are being gifted with a teachable moment, so use it. Life states that we must do things that sometimes scare us or make us nervous. It happens to adults, probably almost daily. But, being adults, we take a deep breath and plunge.
Whether you’re the custodial parent left holding the responsibility bag for all of those everyday parenting tasks and duties, or the off-site parent who is left feeling guilty and alone, knowing what their kids need, but unable to give it to them, your job as a parent will seem much harder after a separation or divorce – at least in the beginning. Your life just changed and so will the way you parent.
My question to my sister was why are you still letting him play with the bucket? We could make the argument about teaching him to play the “right way” but giving a bucket to a baby and telling him not to dump it is like giving chocolate to a woman and saying don’t eat this. My sister didn’t learn anything from the first few times he did it, so she didn’t change anything. There are a lot of different things she could have done to prevent this situation, but she didn’t. Usually, if we ignore a problem it will just get bigger until we can’t ignore it anymore. It was impossible for her to ignore the fire alarm and the waterfall coming from that same alarm.